Somebody's Daughter

Somebody's Daughter

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  • Author:Ashley C. Ford
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Summary

One of the most prominent voices of her generation debuts with an extraordinarily powerful memoir: the story of a childhood defined by the ever looming absence of her incarcerated father and the path we must take to both honor and overcome our origins。

For as long as she could remember, Ashley has put her father on a pedestal。 Despite having only vague memories of seeing him face-to-face, she believes he's the only person in the entire world who understands her。 She thinks she understands him too。 He's sensitive like her, an artist, and maybe even just as afraid of the dark。 She's certain that one day they'll be reunited again, and she'll finally feel complete。 There are just a few problems: he's in prison, and she doesn't know what he did to end up there。

Through poverty, puberty, and a fraught relationship with her mother, Ashley returns to her image of her father for hope and encouragement。 She doesn't know how to deal with the incessant worries that keep her up at night, or how to handle the changes in her body that draw unwanted attention from men。 In her search for unconditional love, Ashley begins dating a boy her mother hates; when the relationship turns sour, he assaults her。 Still reeling from the rape, which she keeps secret from her family, Ashley finally finds out why her father is in prison。 And that's where the story really begins。

Somebody’s Daughter steps into the world of growing up a poor Black girl, exploring how isolating and complex such a childhood can be。 As Ashley battles her body and her environment, she provides a poignant coming-of-age recollection that speaks to finding the threads between who you are and what you were born into, and the complicated familial love that often binds them。

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Rachael | Booklist Queen

Intersting Memoir Without a Memorable MessageA coming-of-age memoir about growing up a Black girl with an incarcerated father and the path to truly understand and overcome our origins。 While Ashley idolized her father she barely knew, her life was shaped by her mother and grandmother。 As she ages, she eventually learns why her father is in prison and must reconcile her own identity with her family's past。Although the book is marketed as Ford's relation with her father, it's really about her rel Intersting Memoir Without a Memorable MessageA coming-of-age memoir about growing up a Black girl with an incarcerated father and the path to truly understand and overcome our origins。 While Ashley idolized her father she barely knew, her life was shaped by her mother and grandmother。 As she ages, she eventually learns why her father is in prison and must reconcile her own identity with her family's past。Although the book is marketed as Ford's relation with her father, it's really about her relationship with her quick-tempered and emotionally detached mother。 Ford is an excellent writer and she does an excellent job convey the emotions and thoughts that influenced her decisions。 However, I would have loved for her to consider why her mother and grandmother made the decisions they made。For me, Somebody's Daughter was just shy of being phenomenal。 The pacing was a bit off: Ford delves so much on her experiences as a very young child, then rushes through her college years。 Similarly, Ford fails to ponder how her experiences connected to what other women and girls, especially Black girls, face。 In all, Somebody's Daughter is an interesting memoir without a memorable message。I received a complimentary copy of this book from Flatiron Books through NetGalley。 Opinions expressed in this review are completely my own。 。。。more

Abigale

Somebody’s Daughter was an honest and moving Memoir! Ford’s writing skills will draw your into the story right away。 She talks openly about her family, her life experiences, and the relationships in her life。 Understanding how she developed into the woman she is today, her relationship with her father who spent the majority of her life in prison, and how her family defined who she was。 I devoured this book in two days and have found myself thinking about it since I finished。

Shonna

Thank you to NetGalley for the ARC of this memoir。 I didn’t know much about the author before reading this personal book about her complicated childhood。 Ashely comes from a close-knit family but struggled with her often-times angry and abusive mother while dealing with the reality of her father being incarcerated for her entire childhood and early adulthood。The audiobook is narrated by the author so I felt even more of a connection to the book hearing her speak her own words and truth。I love re Thank you to NetGalley for the ARC of this memoir。 I didn’t know much about the author before reading this personal book about her complicated childhood。 Ashely comes from a close-knit family but struggled with her often-times angry and abusive mother while dealing with the reality of her father being incarcerated for her entire childhood and early adulthood。The audiobook is narrated by the author so I felt even more of a connection to the book hearing her speak her own words and truth。I love reading memoirs because I believe everyone has a unique story to tell and it opens my eyes and heart to people whose lived experiences are different than mine。 We are all human and trying to do our best。My only complaint is that I wish there had been another chapter – or an epilogue to tell us what happened after the big event in Ford’s life that the memoir leads up to。 Perhaps it’s too private and persona for Ford to share with the world。 。。。more

Alex

I have been a fan of Ashley Ford's work for several years and this book does not disappoint。 Sometimes while reading memoirs I am compelled by the story but the writing feels flat and that is certainly not the case with this book。 Excellent writing!!! Thanks goodreads for the giveaway! I have been a fan of Ashley Ford's work for several years and this book does not disappoint。 Sometimes while reading memoirs I am compelled by the story but the writing feels flat and that is certainly not the case with this book。 Excellent writing!!! Thanks goodreads for the giveaway! 。。。more

Laura Dvorak

Beautiful and moving, but I wish it were twice as long!I've been a longtime fan of Ashley Ford's work, and her memoir is a poignant reflection on how who you are as child shapes who you are forever。 She simultaneously captures her perception of her life as child while also adding what she sees now as an adult。 Not sure how to best describe it beyond that it felt like a book full of the best kind of revelations you work through in therapy。 At times I wished there were specific references to month Beautiful and moving, but I wish it were twice as long!I've been a longtime fan of Ashley Ford's work, and her memoir is a poignant reflection on how who you are as child shapes who you are forever。 She simultaneously captures her perception of her life as child while also adding what she sees now as an adult。 Not sure how to best describe it beyond that it felt like a book full of the best kind of revelations you work through in therapy。 At times I wished there were specific references to months/years to track the timeline and that there was just more! I would've kept reading for sure。 Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for an eARC in exchange for this review。 。。。more

Melissa

This was phenomenal on audio。 Listening to Ashley’s story, her trauma and triumphs in life were moving。 The relationship between mother and daughter and father and daughter were so raw。 Thank you for sharing your experiences with us。

Erika

Thank you to Libro。fm and the publisher for this Advanced Listener Copy。Prior to reading this book, the reader should be aware that there are several potential triggers, including sexual assault, infant loss, and child abuse。This memoir is the remarkable story of how one woman overcame difficult circumstances, including an incarcerated father, family issues, and poverty to make the life she wanted。 I found her story to be inspirational, and couldn't stop listening。 I love hearing people's storie Thank you to Libro。fm and the publisher for this Advanced Listener Copy。Prior to reading this book, the reader should be aware that there are several potential triggers, including sexual assault, infant loss, and child abuse。This memoir is the remarkable story of how one woman overcame difficult circumstances, including an incarcerated father, family issues, and poverty to make the life she wanted。 I found her story to be inspirational, and couldn't stop listening。 I love hearing people's stories- everyone has a rich, intense, and poignant story if you care to listen。 While this was my first interaction with the work of Ashley C。 Ford, I don't anticipate it being the last。 。。。more

Anne

This was a memoir both written and narrated by the author。 While I enjoyed the book, parts of it were just so sad。 And then to imagine the pain of the author as she narrated it。。it’s just heartbreaking。 It was very well written and I’m impressed by this author!

Mel

I loved this book。 I found I could relate with Ashley C。 Ford on MANY subjects。 The story telling was engaging and flowed easily。 Her relationship with her Grandmother was moving。 I was very inspired by her spirit and her honesty。 I could not put this book down。 Thank you @netgalley for another wonderful book!

Jenny

Ashley Ford’s Somebody’s Daughter is a powerful coming-of-age memoir。 Readers should take the trigger warnings for this book seriously because Ford will rip your heart out again and again。 But despite the hard moments and topics in this memoir, Ford’s writing style was a breeze and made this book very easy to listen to。 The chapters are episodic, so there are some gaps in her life story, which the reader than has to catch up to。 However, this doesn’t take away from the power and memorability of Ashley Ford’s Somebody’s Daughter is a powerful coming-of-age memoir。 Readers should take the trigger warnings for this book seriously because Ford will rip your heart out again and again。 But despite the hard moments and topics in this memoir, Ford’s writing style was a breeze and made this book very easy to listen to。 The chapters are episodic, so there are some gaps in her life story, which the reader than has to catch up to。 However, this doesn’t take away from the power and memorability of this book。 I highly recommend this book。 The journey is worth it but proceed with caution。 4。25 stars。I received a free digital ARC from NetGalley and Macmillian Audio in exchange for an honest review。 。。。more

Daina (Dai2DaiReader)

I would give this book 4。5 stars。 Detailed review to come。

Susie | Novel Visits

Rounded up from 3。5。。。I think。 Review to follow, after my thoughts settle。

Kasa Cotugno

This is a generous memoir, narrated by the author, who reveals a life of challenges。 Under the imprint of Oprah, which is guarantee of success, Ashley C。 Ford tells her own story which concerns more her relationship with her mother than her imprisoned father。 But she also points out that her parents were very young when she was born, and the reasons for her father's incarceration are not revealed to the reader or her until late in the story。 They are left deliberately murky since the real focus This is a generous memoir, narrated by the author, who reveals a life of challenges。 Under the imprint of Oprah, which is guarantee of success, Ashley C。 Ford tells her own story which concerns more her relationship with her mother than her imprisoned father。 But she also points out that her parents were very young when she was born, and the reasons for her father's incarceration are not revealed to the reader or her until late in the story。 They are left deliberately murky since the real focus here is the family dynamic in the face of an incarcerated man。 What these people did share above all was love for one another。 。。。more

Jennifer

Audiobook narrated by the author。 She did a great job and I highly recommend listening to this as an audiobook。 I’ve only read a few memoirs and I enjoyed them all。 This one felt very close to home。 I had a similar mother。 The author describes her life that is completely relatable。 Her honesty is commendable。 I thought this would be about her father but its more about her mother。 I say that to say that this sentence, sentenced all of them。 It was a trickle down effect of many things going wrong。 Audiobook narrated by the author。 She did a great job and I highly recommend listening to this as an audiobook。 I’ve only read a few memoirs and I enjoyed them all。 This one felt very close to home。 I had a similar mother。 The author describes her life that is completely relatable。 Her honesty is commendable。 I thought this would be about her father but its more about her mother。 I say that to say that this sentence, sentenced all of them。 It was a trickle down effect of many things going wrong。 A broken family。 My husband had a life sentence for murder so I know about the struggle。 Life moves on without them。 And then they get out。 I think most people will enjoy this。 Thanks Macmillan Audio via Netgalley。 。。。more

Brenda Smith

I’m lucky enough to be a member of @librofm ‘s ALC program and listened to this one on audio in advance of its release。 I sometimes struggle with memoirs on audio because my brain has a tendency to wander off, but there’s something about Ford’s cadence and expressiveness that propels the listener through the story。 I highly recommend on audio。 Ford wades through the murkiness of her childhood with discernment and purpose。 She describes her complicated family dynamic without judgment, giving life I’m lucky enough to be a member of @librofm ‘s ALC program and listened to this one on audio in advance of its release。 I sometimes struggle with memoirs on audio because my brain has a tendency to wander off, but there’s something about Ford’s cadence and expressiveness that propels the listener through the story。 I highly recommend on audio。 Ford wades through the murkiness of her childhood with discernment and purpose。 She describes her complicated family dynamic without judgment, giving life to each person she introduces us to and allowing the reader to form their own opinions。 She so aptly describes her experience that it feels like watching a play of her life。 I listen to my audiobooks as I walk or drive so I found myself inventing places to go just so I could listen。 I will definitely be purchasing a hard copy to go on my shelf。 。。。more

Timber Oaks Little Library

Ashley Ford's memoir is a perfect example of what an insecure attachment style looks and feels like in the life of a child。 Somebody's Daughter recalls Ashley Ford's abusive childhood and her relationship with her mother and incarcerated father。 This was a beautifully written memoir, full of heartbreak and longing for love and stability。 It is raw, painful, and full of remarkable self-awareness。I cannot imagine the amount of emotional work and self growth it took to write this book。 This type of Ashley Ford's memoir is a perfect example of what an insecure attachment style looks and feels like in the life of a child。 Somebody's Daughter recalls Ashley Ford's abusive childhood and her relationship with her mother and incarcerated father。 This was a beautifully written memoir, full of heartbreak and longing for love and stability。 It is raw, painful, and full of remarkable self-awareness。I cannot imagine the amount of emotional work and self growth it took to write this book。 This type of introspection is so draining, and it takes tremendous courage to write one's soul so bare。 Just for that, this memoir is breathtaking。 It was a privilege to be invited into Ashley's inner world in the pages of Somebody's Daughter。 Truly stunning work。 。。。more

Carla (happiestwhenreading)

Thank you, @librofm and @flatiron_books, for the early copy of this incredible memoir!In SOMEBODY’S DAUGHTER, Ashley C。 Ford, grapples with finding her adult identity after a hard and traumatic childhood。 Her father was incarcerated and she longed for his acceptance and connection。 Her mother had her own issues that often left her confused and lonely。 But through all of her experiences, Ford was motivated to be better。 She is strong and resilient, offering so much inspiration to her readers!Get Thank you, @librofm and @flatiron_books, for the early copy of this incredible memoir!In SOMEBODY’S DAUGHTER, Ashley C。 Ford, grapples with finding her adult identity after a hard and traumatic childhood。 Her father was incarcerated and she longed for his acceptance and connection。 Her mother had her own issues that often left her confused and lonely。 But through all of her experiences, Ford was motivated to be better。 She is strong and resilient, offering so much inspiration to her readers!Get your preorders in for this book which will be released on June 1, 2021! 。。。more

Tish

This book is profoundly personal to me。 Ashley has this gift with words that is unmatched。 I love and appreciate how she sees and contextualizes the world。 We have monsters in our lives that create horrible fallacies in our heads—that our nightmares are unique and therefore isolating。 My stories are different and yet the same。 Her book is a beautiful template for her to move thru those spaces。

Traci at The Stacks

A very strong memoir。 Loved Ford’s conversational writing style。 The use of family relationships and the things our families tell us that shape ourselves。 The book lacked a little direction for me and it ended in a place that left me wanting more。 Not in an omg mic drop way, but in a there are some loose ends that I’d wished had been tended to way。

Kimberly

What a gift to have Ashley C。 Ford share her story with us。 I'm especially grateful I got to hear it in Ms。 Ford's voice thanks to LibroFM and MacMillian Audio。 You can pre-order your copy right now!! What a gift to have Ashley C。 Ford share her story with us。 I'm especially grateful I got to hear it in Ms。 Ford's voice thanks to LibroFM and MacMillian Audio。 You can pre-order your copy right now!! 。。。more

the overstuffed bookshelf

Thank you to NetGalley and MacMillan Audio for this advanced listener's copy of Somebody's Daughter, read by the author, Ashley C。 Ford。 Wow, now this is a memoir。 As a huge memoir fan I knew that I would more than likely enjoy Somebody's Daughter but I didn't know that I would LOVE it so much。 Somebody's Daughter is Ashley C。 Ford's life story, told from her perspective and narrated with her own voice。 Ford recounts her life, growing up and becoming an adult while her father serves a long term Thank you to NetGalley and MacMillan Audio for this advanced listener's copy of Somebody's Daughter, read by the author, Ashley C。 Ford。 Wow, now this is a memoir。 As a huge memoir fan I knew that I would more than likely enjoy Somebody's Daughter but I didn't know that I would LOVE it so much。 Somebody's Daughter is Ashley C。 Ford's life story, told from her perspective and narrated with her own voice。 Ford recounts her life, growing up and becoming an adult while her father serves a long term in prison。 I began this story not knowng much abou the author other than being aware of her name。 Now, I am in awe of her ability to tell her story, every good and bad thing that she remembers, in a way that made me feel like I had known her my whole life。 We will never meet in real life but I will always feel like we are close friends, which is the magic of a beautifully-written memoir。 I consider myself extremely lucky to have been able to hear this book before it's offical release。 I have already told all of my reader friends to pre-order this one, it's going to be on all of the best of 2021 lists, I am sure of it。 Don't miss out, pre-order now so that you can start reading it on it's release date, June 1st。 。。。more

Tatiana Dengo

I received an ARC of this book in exchange for an honest review。 This book had me sobbing for a solid 20 minutes after I was done reading, and only one other book has ever done that to me before。 Ashley is someone whose work I was not acquainted with before this book, but I’ve followed and appreciated her thoughts on Twitter for a few years now, so it was nice to finally experience what she’s professionally known for。 Let me tell you, she is good。The back cover blurb would have you believe the s I received an ARC of this book in exchange for an honest review。 This book had me sobbing for a solid 20 minutes after I was done reading, and only one other book has ever done that to me before。 Ashley is someone whose work I was not acquainted with before this book, but I’ve followed and appreciated her thoughts on Twitter for a few years now, so it was nice to finally experience what she’s professionally known for。 Let me tell you, she is good。The back cover blurb would have you believe the story focuses more on her relationship with her father, but it’s entirely the opposite。 The parent this memoir spends the most time on is her mother, and the second one is her grandmother; but by the end it is clear to see the true intention of the title: is she’s the daughter of a varied group of people, plus their multiple experiences, kindnesses, and imperfections。Reviewing somebody else's memoir feels a bit bizarre… I’m not here to judge her life experiences and give them a score。 

What I inadvertently found myself doing is finding a depth of value in seeing myself mirrored in many of the feelings she expresses, even if our life experiences are worlds apart。It’s just so touching to read about the human experience in somebody else’s shoes, to feel like you want to hug them through that pain that is also familiar to you。 It makes you feel a little bit more connected and alive。 If you’ve ever wanted to read someone's thoughts, or “walk a mile in their shoes”, here is Ashley’s memoir, waiting for you to see inside her mind。 And what a sharp and powerful mind it is。 This is absolutely one of the bestest books of 2021。 。。。more

Karen (idleutopia_reads)

RTC but highly recommend you pre-order this one。 I did and I can't wait to have it in print。 The audiobook was gorgeous。 RTC but highly recommend you pre-order this one。 I did and I can't wait to have it in print。 The audiobook was gorgeous。 。。。more

Michelle

Loved it。 Not sure on a rating yet thought。 RTC

Missie Jacobson

I needed to sit on this book for a week before I could write the review。 I love memoirs more than any of category。 This book did not disappoint!! I related to several of Ashley's stories from growing up。 Alot of women suffer in silence from things that happen as kids/teens。 Ashley gave the reader/listener her raw childhood and these are the stories that people need to read and learn from。 Thank you Ashley for sharing a piece of you! I needed to sit on this book for a week before I could write the review。 I love memoirs more than any of category。 This book did not disappoint!! I related to several of Ashley's stories from growing up。 Alot of women suffer in silence from things that happen as kids/teens。 Ashley gave the reader/listener her raw childhood and these are the stories that people need to read and learn from。 Thank you Ashley for sharing a piece of you! 。。。more

Nima Morgan

Truly enjoyed this honest, emotional, and courageous memoir of Ashley Ford。 She takes you through an amazing journey of her life, where despite all the difficult challenges she perseveres and comes out a stronger person。 She is an inspiration。 Looking forward to reading more from Ms。 Ford。Thank you to #NetGalley and #MacmillanAudio for gifting me with an Audio ARC of Somebody’s Daughter by Ashley C。 Ford。 In exchange for an unbiased review。

Cheri

Excellent。 It doesn’t get any better than this。 Ashley C。 Ford’s voice is very much her own and still I felt I related to her feelings so many times despite having very different backgrounds。 Some of the best writing I’ve seen in a while。 Highly recommend。

Molly Weisgrau

*I was sent a free ARC of this book by Flatiron books in exchange for an honest review*Ashley C。 Ford’s raw and honest memoir tells her story of growing up poor in Indiana with an incarcerated father and abusive mother。 She details her adolescence, including her growing and important relationship with her grandmother, the assault she suffered at the hands of her first boyfriend, and her journey to becoming a first-generation college student。 All the while, she ruminates on her father’s absence a *I was sent a free ARC of this book by Flatiron books in exchange for an honest review*Ashley C。 Ford’s raw and honest memoir tells her story of growing up poor in Indiana with an incarcerated father and abusive mother。 She details her adolescence, including her growing and important relationship with her grandmother, the assault she suffered at the hands of her first boyfriend, and her journey to becoming a first-generation college student。 All the while, she ruminates on her father’s absence and her inability to connect with him as she grows up。Filled with complexity and nuance, Ford does a good job of probing the multiple intersections of her identity。 This is not singularly a book about race, about family, or about violence, but all of these aspects are crucial to Ford’s development。 The book’s strongest points lie in her recollections of her family, particularly the way her relationship with her grandmother starkly contrasts that with her mother。 The effect of such comes fully into focus as she visits her grandmother on her deathbed。 Though the memoir begins rather disjointed and uncertain, it finds its way around the 60% mark。Although this memoir covers an array of topics, it felt as if it was missing some constant thread to weave its different aspects together。 It read like several patches not quite sewn together to make a quilt, but also not quite essays that could stand on their own。 The book is marketed as if Ford’s incarcerated father is the continuing thread, but his portions actually take up very little of the book and remarkably little time is spent reconciling with his actions on the page once Ford becomes aware of the wrongdoings that landed him in prison。 This was a disappointment and really soured my view of the book as a whole。 Additionally, the prose could use editing and there are many moments that Ford ventures into unnecessary tangents or anecdotes that don’t turn out to serve the book as a whole。 I think this would have benefitted from a more critical eye in the revision process。 Ultimately, while this novel was set up to be great, I’m left giving it just a middling rating。 。。。more

Deelee

I was drawn in by the premise of this memoir, especially being familiar with the author's consistently kind and thoughtful presence on social media, but was not prepared for the power and clarity of Ford's storytelling。 The earlier sections that focus on Ford's childhood are especially vivid。 In scenes that capture the love and chaos of an upbringing shaped by the traumatized adults (and presumably generations of historical trauma), Ford's younger self is evoked in all her ferocity, tenderness, I was drawn in by the premise of this memoir, especially being familiar with the author's consistently kind and thoughtful presence on social media, but was not prepared for the power and clarity of Ford's storytelling。 The earlier sections that focus on Ford's childhood are especially vivid。 In scenes that capture the love and chaos of an upbringing shaped by the traumatized adults (and presumably generations of historical trauma), Ford's younger self is evoked in all her ferocity, tenderness, anguish, and strength。 Later sections add increasing perspective, revealing that Ford's mother's violence was intertwined with the single mother of four's fear, shame, and desperation。 (Ford notes that at the time she, the oldest child, went to college, her mother was supporting the entire household on $40,000/year。 Later, in reference to that period, Ford's mother is quoted as saying, I don't blame you for not trusting me, I was crazy back then!)Ignoring the pull of moral arithmetic, Ford insists on a view of both her parents as deeply complicated, victims as much as victimizers, pouring their protective love into their children even as the harm of their violent acts stretches far, far, far into the future。 Ashley Ford reads the audiobook of her own memoir beautifully, in an even cadence inflected by the convincingly mimicked rhythms of the various family members (esp。 mother, father, grandmother, and her younger self) around whom the narrative orbits。 As in so many contemporary memoirs, chronology responds to memory, such that certain moments, like Ashley receiving the news of her father's release from prison, reappear multiple times。 In writing of less precision, such repetitions can feel like poor editing; here, however, Ford is paying attention (a stable character trait, judging from the precision, frankness, and generosity with which she recounts fraught childhood events)。 Each judicious repetition is welcome, playing differently in the face of new information。As the book progresses, the context enlarges。 Situations that seemed clear enough to dismiss (wonderful father, wrongly imprisoned; violent narcissistic mother) in early chapters gather texture and nuance, emerging ultimately as large impossible questions, such as what true justice looks like and which of our many selves we ought to be held accountable for。Because of Ford's gift for complexity and restraint with broad-strokes conclusions, it's a bit disappointing that many of the last words about each family member are almost gooey with sentiment, as if Ford is urging the reader to forgive them for her。While I might have wished for more from the last several chapters, the overall experience was powerful, moving, and clear-sighted。 I look forward to reading every last book Ford publishes--so I do hope she has another one or five in the works。The use of repetition is so judicious that I was excited when such scenes recurred, now possessing enough new information that the tone (her mother's reluctance to hear Ashley's feelings; her anxiety about her father's homecoming) feels dramatically different。 What looked at the book's outset to be 。。。more